You know how there is a list on your mind of the things you want to do, places you want to go, but hadn’t had the opportunity to. My list was long, until I decided I was done waiting for the perfect time, and I would start doing them. And thats when my dates with myself started.

First, I want you to know that I was the type of person that didn’t like going out alone, not even having lunch alone.  The only thing I used to do alone, once in a while, was seeing a movie in a theater, if I didn’t find company.  So, that being said, I like being around people, and I am very social.  But there are a lot of places I want to go, and things I want to do and sometimes is hard finding the right time for everyone to do those things, and I was feeling like I was losing opportunities and experiences waiting.

My first “date” was as an end of semester celebration, I decided I deserved some me time, to relax and have a good time.  I planned ahead and told everyone I could my plans, that way I wouldn’t back out, plus, the countdown was exciting. 

The day came, and on my way over I kept thinking I should just buy food on a drive-thru and eat in my car, cause, “what would I do alone in a restaurant table?”.  I pushed the thoughts away and went with my plan. After I was in the place, sitting alone in the table, I was so proud of my self.  I distracted myself people watching and spending some time on social media until the food arrive. Then I went to see a movie and after that I did some walking at the mall. That night when I got home, I was so happy, proud and pleased with myself, it was an awesome experience. 

After that day I told myself I can do anything I want and that I won’t deprive myself of experiences just because I am alone.  When I decide I want to do something alone, at first I feel self conscious, but I let the though pass, and I focus on having a great time.  These little decisions make me feel powerful and in control of my life, I feel stronger and independent and I love how I’m feeling.  I am not saying I prefer going out alone, I still like company, but I learned that the only thing I need to have fun is my attitude. 

I challenge you to take yourself out in a date and have fun. Control those thoughts that hold you back and be determined to have a good time. I am sure you wont regret giving yourself some quality time.

Never stop dreaming.